The Niall Graham Podcast

#21 Eldership, Mission & Navigating our Wounding w/h Robin Botley

This is beautiful conversation with my good friend and elder Robin Botley. He has been involved in Mens work for over 25 years. A member of both Mankind Project and one of the founding Members of A Band of Brothers. His wisdom is both rich a deeply touching as he shares the journey of his life.
In this podcast we cover:
- How Wounds are a pathway of learning about who we are
- The impact of not having elders in the world
- How having a Mission & Vision is essential for men
- Asking the deepest question - 'Who am I?'
 
If you are a man and are ready to do this work recognise the need for a guide on this journey I run 3 & 6 month programmes leading men from Boyhood stepping into their full Manhood. Book a free call here to see how I can support you. 
 

#20 Become a more mature man by regulating your inner child

As men we cannot step into full maturity until we develop deep relationship with our inner child. He must feel safe and protected for us to be able to step into full maturity, otherwise we will experience reactivity, shutdown and real difficulty in romantic relationships.
 
In this solo podcast I discuss:
 
3 ways you can help regulate this inner child
How tending to the inner child becomes the foundation of building a lives that we want
How its not only important to love our inner child but also that he feels safe.
Want to step more into your maturity as a man? 
1:1 Mentoring - If you are ready to bring this inner child home and integrated into you my 1:1 work builds deep safety and relationship with the inner child so that you can start building a life instead of struggling and shutdown. Book a free discovery call here.
 
Fir Mná weekend Immersion. Men & Womens work in Wicklow in June Full details here

#19 Revisioning and tending the relationship between Men & women w/h Michaela of Rooted Feminine Wellness

The battle of the sexes is such a big issue in culture. Women not feeling safe or protected in society and men feeling unsure of how to step up for fear of being judged or critiscised. This is not a new story but it is a story being talked about more and what we can do about it. In this podcast Michaela and I dive headlong into this subject.
We Cover:
- What are the origin stories of this divide between men & women?
- What are the hurts, fears and projections men and women have about eachother?
- What do men & women actually want in relationship?
- How we can become allies and start to do this healing together.
 
Unity | A FREE workshop for men & women | Wed 30th April 7-9pm - Rebuilding trust and deep connection between men & women. Register here
Fir Mná Weekend Immersion | 26th-29th June | Wicklow - Full details and booking for this Immersion here
Michaela - If you are interested in connecting more with Michaela you can check out her work here

#18 Spirit & Soul - Navigating both realms of life

Many men end up trapped the spirit realms, avoiding emotions and rationalizing our way through life because many spiritual teachings support this. 
At some point we realize we are disconnected from life and the only way through is to descend into soul and the feminine realms of life, emotions and body.
 
In this podcast I go into:
- How our unprocessed childhood traumas lead us to disconnect, or escape to spirit realms
- The impact of not being connected to the body and emotions
- The cultural imprint on men of suppressing feelings and interacting with the world from a rational perspective
- How to embrace both the sprit and soul realms for a balanced life.
 
1:1 Mentoring - If you relate to any of the topics in this podcast and are wanting support to deepen into yourself. Set up a discovery call here to see if I can help you.
Fir Mná - you can check out Fir Mná on Instagram here

#17 The Ultradian cycle - Following natural cycles for deep concentration and focus.

We are natural beings connected to nature and the cycles. When we can align with the natural cycles of life we get more done with much more ease.
 
In this podcast I cover:
How following natural cycles leads to more productivity and less overwhelm.
The value of creating structure, containers and intentional spaces for deep work and creativity.
Stop procrastinating and start working towards your goal & purpose today!
Seeing how our modern attitudes of hustle culture and working are not natural and actually counterproductive to our health and productivity.
How fully committing and deepening into a task is deeply fulfilling for us.
 
If you found this podcast helpful please share with someone that you feel may benefit.
 
If you are feeling you want to ignite your passion and energy for life and feel like you need a bit of guidance to support you on this path I offer 3 & 6 month containers to support you in all areas of your life. These are deeply transformative containers that completely change you as a man.
Book in a discovery call here to discuss how I can support you.
 
Blue Zones - The Ultradian cycle graph
 

#16 Containment & Healthy expression of Anger

In this weeks episode I dive deeply into anger.
Anger is a pivotal emotion to master for men. Often we have a bad relationship with anger and haven't learned the skills to navigate anger without either going into collapse to avoid anger or going into reaction where we get taken over by anger.
In this episode I dive deeply into:
- What are the ways we have developed a negative relationship with anger.
- How anger is normally protecting a vulnerable or hurt part of us.
- The 2 most common ways we handle anger, collapse and reaction.
- Learning ways to healthily express and how we can build capacity to hold anger without denying it or acting from it.
Overcoming the nice guy weekend retreat - If you are wanting to learn the skills of navigating anger in a healthier way Overcoming the nice guy is a weekend retreat where we build these skills and competencies 28th-30th March in Sligo Booking
FirMná Also FirMná a project to heal the relationship between men and women is active now on Instagram you can follow the work on Instagram here
As always if you are needing any support or feel I can help you feel free to reach out here niall.graham@hotmail.com
 

W/h Guest - Angie Twydall - Womb/Hara Inner Authority & Awakening the Grail Knights

This Episode im joined by Angie Twydall Founder of The Sanctuary of Sophia, a sacred space dedicated to offering womb and hara training, trauma-aware teachings, and transformative retreats.
Her extensive background includes roles as a yoga teacher, doula, beekeeper, and priestess, reflecting her deep commitment to holistic well-being and spiritual growth.
 
This was such a deep conversation and a deep invitation for men to step into full selves as grail knights, protectors of women and the land.
 
We covered:
Womb/hara as our inner authority
Awakening the energetic bodies of Men & Women
The grail gates of the male body
The severance between heart and womb/hara
Its time for men to lay down our swords and embrace our sensitivity
I feel like both men and women will get so much out of this conversation.
If you are interested in signing up to The Grail Knights - Healing the Wastelands beginning 21st March click here for full details
Other ways to connect with Angies work:
📧 info@sanctuaryofsophia.co.uk🌐 www.sanctuaryofsophia.com📞 07715 561576📷 Instagram: @sanctuary_of_sophia📘 Facebook: Sanctuary of Sophia▶️ YouTube: Sanctuary of Sophia
 
Nialls work:
If you are interested in embodying more of your power and male presence and becoming more embodied in your masculine frame join us for Overcoming the nice guy 28th-30th March. Earlybird ends Fri 28th Feb
Think I can help you? Book in for a chat here
Niall
 
 

#15 Stop being a People Pleaser - Start putting yourself first

The people pleaser is so common in modern society. 'Nice guys,' 'yes men,' but ultimately spineless and lack of balls. On the surface he is agreeable and approachable but underneath he is hiding a resentment because he knows he is not showing up as himself in the world.
 
In this episode I go fully into this people pleaser, I cover: 
 
- What is a people pleaser?
- What is his origin story? Where does he come from?
- How does being a people pleaser hold us back in life.
- Learn 3 steps you can take to move away from the people pleaser.
 
Mentioned in this episode:
 
Overcoming the Nice guy Weekend Retreat 28th-30th March, Bru Moyturra, Sligo Details & Booking
Want to work 1:1? Book a discovery call
 

#14 Diary of a breakdown. What happens when everything falls apart?

In this episode I share a personal story of a breakdown I had when I was 20. 
Breakdowns or mental disorders are often stigmatized and pathologised in society, which leads people to miss the gifts that these breakdowns may hold. How would it be to see breakdowns as an essential part of life?
 
In this podcast I go into:
The full story of this breakdown, context and how I navigated my way through
How a mentor helped me reframe this breakdown to see it in a different light
How can we learn to work with breakdowns to spiral into new ways of being in the world?
 
Overcoming the Nice Guy retreat 28-30th March, Sligo More info
 
Book a discovery call to see how I can support you Book a call
 
Disclaimer: I am not a qualified therapist, this podcast is designed to share my story to hopefully destigmatise mental health a little. Although I navigated this time mostly on my own I would not recommend this.
If you are struggling  with a mental disorder or are a danger to yourself or others it is important to reach out to mental health organisation for support. There are many organisations who can support. 

#13 Why talk therapy doesn’t work for all men and what men actually need.

Over the years ive worked with many men who say ive been to therapy for years and I need something else. In this episode I dive into: 
Why talk therapy isn’t always the best therapy for men
How men and women need different types of therapy
What sorts of support men need to truly activate their lives.
What the masculine part of us needs to be fully activated in our lives
If you are ready to commit to transforming you life in a 3 or 6 month container book a discovery call to explore how we could work together Book here